[jlgoinggreen]

My first child was born via C/S and I was told it was due to CPD and FTP. I was also told I was too tiny and my uterus was set in backward and because of this I would never give birth naturally.
With my second child I had the unfortunate event of having my whole extended family in the delivery room with me. My sisters along with the hospital nurse fought with my midwife screaming that she was trying to kill me because I was "supposed" to have a C/S. While I was already pushing and being told by the midwife that everything was progressing fine, the doctor walked in yelling that I HAD to have a C/S and ordered an immediate emergency C/S. I could also see my sisters crying and claiming I was going to die. The fear of everything being said completely stopped my labor.
With my third child my husband and I sought out a doctor that would be honest with us as all of this was very difficult for me to accept. The doctor (who was a friend of my husband's and we trusted), after reading my past birthing records, told my husband and I that unfortunately I was NEVER to give birth naturally due to my tiny pelvic area, my uterus being set backwards, and the fact I already had had 2 C/S. We trusted her and allowed her office to schedule my third C/S. It was very heartbreaking for me.

With my fourth child something inside me just could not accept another C/S. I researched all I could on VBACs and shared this with my doctor. She stated their policies would not allow this. When she reminded me on my 6th month that I needed to schedule my C/S I fired her. We hired a midwife and doula and decided to have a homebirth. This time I kept all negativity out (this included my extended family). I was blessed to have a VERY hands off doula who understood I was very fearful to call the CNM midwife we hired due to her threatening another C/S. I had GD and very high BP. I forbid anyone from calling her and instead was on the phone with a "laymidwife" who was more naturally minded. She guided us as much as she could over the phone. At the last minute my husband and doula did call in the CNM midwife we hired, but through God's grace she was unable to make it and sent in her assistant who honestly was very far away. By the time she got there I was ready to give birth. She followed everyone's lead since when she got there I already had the atmosphere as I wanted it. I did not want anyone checking me or talking to me and my doula relayed that to her. Doing most of the birth on my own made me realize it is something I might be able to do after all.

I am currently pregnant with my 5th pregnancy and excitedly planning this birthing experience. I will be taking better care of myself to try and prevent GD and high BP. I am starting this pregnancy overweight, so am a little concerned. I am learning to listen to my body and trying to eat healthier. I have not brought up a UC to my husband, but am considering it. If my husband does not agree I will be hiring the lay midwife I ended up on the telephone with when I was in labor last time.

[Solace]

Wow. What experiences! What a blessing though...that you did find the truth that you CAN give birth and how important the right support and care during pregnancy and birth can make such a HUGE difference! I hope you can find this site useful while deciding how you wish to procede.

[jlgoinggreen]

Solace, on 18 June 2010 - 10:21 AM, said:

Wow. What experiences! What a blessing though...that you did find the truth that you CAN give birth and how important the right support and care during pregnancy and birth can make such a HUGE difference! I hope you can find this site useful while deciding how you wish to procede.

Thank you Solace. I know our Lord will direct us in the right way to go. I worry so much about being overweight and having GD in my last pregnancy plus really high BP, but I do know some people who have had a UC with the same issues and did great. I am currently reading 'Supernatural Childbirth' and researching what other good books are out there to help me build on my faith (well besides the Bible which is #1).

Anyone have some books you'd like to recommend? I saw one called 'A Christ Centered Birth'. Has anyone heard of this one?

[Solace]

jlgoinggreen, on 18 June 2010 - 02:20 PM, said:

Solace, on 18 June 2010 - 10:21 AM, said:

Wow. What experiences! What a blessing though...that you did find the truth that you CAN give birth and how important the right support and care during pregnancy and birth can make such a HUGE difference! I hope you can find this site useful while deciding how you wish to procede.

Thank you Solace. I know our Lord will direct us in the right way to go. I worry so much about being overweight and having GD in my last pregnancy plus really high BP, but I do know some people who have had a UC with the same issues and did great. I am currently reading 'Supernatural Childbirth' and researching what other good books are out there to help me build on my faith (well besides the Bible which is #1).

Anyone have some books you'd like to recommend? I saw one called 'A Christ Centered Birth'. Has anyone heard of this one?

I think that when we are grounded in God's Word that many of the fears that have no basis in reality can dissapate and we can then procede with confidence in the direction God has for us for each birth. That is not to say that bad things never happen; however, unexpected outcomes can happen in otherwise healthy, low risk women too. When we are in tune with our bodies and our God we can more clearly receive messages if we need to, I believe. Weeding out the fear mongering and bad info, poor support, etc. is so important. It is like spiritual poison!

[jlgoinggreen]

Yes, I agree with you 100%. It is so important not to allow the nay sayers in your head and definitely not in the birth. I believe if I would have had my mother, sisters, or nieces (I'm the baby of 8 so my nieces are about my age with kids of their own) I would have definitely not had the same outcome. I have a VERY strong belief that words have power. They even acknowledge this in the secular world. Hearing repeatedly (especially during labor) that my labor was going great and my body was created to birth helped me a lot. Also being left alone to do what my body felt it needed to do helped a lot. They told me there was a time while I was in transition (now this I don't remember) that I grabbed on to the edge of my bed and dresser while squatting did a rocking motion as if I were on a rocking chair. They stated I was humming deeply then whistling through my contractions. Weird, I know. lol My husband was kinda nervous, buy my doula reassured him that I was fine. They said they had never seen anything like that before, but it was obviously comfortable to me and what my body needed to do.

[teshuah]

welcome, Jennifer! and I"m excited to follow and support you in your journey :)

[luvrbbs]

Welcome and Prayers for guidance and the birth of your dreams.

I wanted a UP and UC this time (my 3rd birth due in Sept first 2 were hospital vaginal births and a bit traumatic for me). Now at 26 weeks my GD is dangeroulsy out of control and God has lead us to an OB... my heart is broken over the lost dream but I am trusting in him and his plans.

I just want to encourage you to keep your eyes on the Lord and stay centered by being in the Word.

Looking forward to following your story!

[Sombra]

http://prvbs31mama.b...ugh-recipe.html watch these videos

[jlgoinggreen]

luvrbbs, on 19 June 2010 - 05:28 PM, said:

Welcome and Prayers for guidance and the birth of your dreams.

I wanted a UP and UC this time (my 3rd birth due in Sept first 2 were hospital vaginal births and a bit traumatic for me). Now at 26 weeks my GD is dangeroulsy out of control and God has lead us to an OB... my heart is broken over the lost dream but I am trusting in him and his plans.

I just want to encourage you to keep your eyes on the Lord and stay centered by being in the Word.

Looking forward to following your story!

I'm so sorry you didn't get your UP. Are you still going to have a UC?

I also look forward to following your story.

[jlgoinggreen]

teshuah, on 19 June 2010 - 04:52 AM, said:

welcome, Jennifer! and I"m excited to follow and support you in your journey :)

Thank you.

[cindahomaker]

Thanks for sharing your story...

I could identify with several points...

The fear factor, the dishonesty of care providers and slowly but surely being lead away form all that. To trust my God for more and to become more comfortable with my body ( even when it gives me fits) and
into my first, second and now third UP/ UC.

[jlgoinggreen]

cindahomaker, on 21 June 2010 - 09:35 AM, said:

Thanks for sharing your story...

I could identify with several points...

The fear factor, the dishonesty of care providers and slowly but surely being lead away form all that. To trust my God for more and to become more comfortable with my body ( even when it gives me fits) and
into my first, second and now third UP/ UC.

Thanks. I am praying that I am able to trust my body more without the "fear" factor. I am currently only 6 weeks pregnant and by now would have seen a doctor/midwife. I have decided to pray about it and wait until I am 12 weeks. Once the 12 weeks are up I will pray about it again and make a decision if I want a midwife to oversea me. I've already decided I don't want to be checked inside (forgot what it's called) every month .... and maybe never, but might just have her for checking my BP and GD and holistic advice - the midwife is a holistic midwife. So far I have peace with this decision. At 12 weeks I will reevaluate and pray. In the meantime I have ordered books on eating healthy while pregnant and because I am studying to be a doula, have plenty of pregnancy books. Just have to read them. lol I also have books on VBACs from my VBAC 2 years ago that I will be rereading.

Today I was also discussing with my husband that this is the first pregnancy that I am REALLY happy about. Really sad to say. With my first by the time I was 6 months I was already being told that I was too small and had a high possibility of having C/S babies. Baby #2 and 3 was a mixture of joy for the new life with total sadness of what awaited me - 'surgery'. With pregnancy #4, although it ended great, the whole pregnancy was clouded by sadness and anger at fighting for the birth my body longed for.

With this baby I have started off with joy knowing EVERYTHING will be done HIS way through prayer and guidance. Be it with a midwife or just with my family (husband and kids), it will be HIS way. I just have that Peace which surpasses all understanding knowing my baby will be born at home the way God intended without any interventions.

[Bananna]

Praise God you were able to see the truth that gives peace.

Bananna

[mountainmommy]

I have had 2 up/uc with a few small difficulties with first but all went well and none 2nd time. God gives us the peace we need in our lives and birth is part of our life. I will be praying all will be well with you and this new little life god has given you.